Monday, March 24, 2008

Oh no. It's THAT person. Run and hide.

Why?
I can't figure out why I avoid certain people. I feel bad about it. Plus, it creates awkward situations. So why bother with it? Why don't I just pretend everything's ok and let things be the same as it used to be? Wait- did i say pretend? If there's nothing wrong in the first place then there's no need to pretend. So why pretend there's something wrong then pretend there's nothing wrong? thats just a waste of emotional energy. =.=
One of the reasons i avoid certain people is because its just 'what we do'. When a friend starts doing something, it's contagious and everyone in that group of friends is infected with the "i need to avoid that person" disease. So we just do it because thats the way it is. But sometimes as an individual, you don't feel the same way about that person as the rest of the group may. Or maybe in actual fact, only one person in the group feels that way but they share it around and all of a sudden everyone agrees. If you stand up and do what you feel like doing, you're afraid that the rest of your friends feel like you're boycotting against them, and slowly but surely you'll lose them as your friends. So the whole avoiding people business... it's difficult to be an individual and think for yourself because there's so many factors involved... You got two choices- 1) to avoid that specific someone like you would do when you're with your friends even when you're alone, or 2) you pretend to be like your friends around them, but when you're alone you forget the whole barrier avoiding person thing. (and hope your friends don't find out) Friends can be selfish. They want to keep you for themselves. I'm your friend, you're my friend. So no one else interfere! When new people come in they become defensive, afraid of losing a best friend. I was going to write more about stuff but i'm going a bit off topic. SO: in conclusion,
Simple things in life can sometimes be so complicated.

I feel like baking.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

real friends don't try to restrict who you befriend, nor should they make you treat others in a way that you're not totally comfortable with. what is this - high school? you shouldn't avoid people just because your friends have ostracised them; that's silly. (and - at the risk of sounding harsh :( but you know i'm not directing it to you specifically - cruel.)

Laurane said...

its surprising how similar uni life is to high school.

eli said...

real friends don't like to see their friends get into troubles... so one way of seeing it is that real friends try to warn their friends about the true being of some other ppl. If i see my fren getting befriended by ppl whom will just take advantage of (not just by judging the book by its cover but actually found out about that person personally), AND me NOT telling them about it, then I would feel guilty of not being a true friend of warning my fren if something happens to her.

Maybe sometimes your friends are not trying to control who u can friend because they are jealous of u or selfish, but maybe because the one reason is that they don't want to see you get hurt....

Laurane said...

eli- you have a point. yeah... thanks. <3